“Hotactics” by G.L. Lambert

“This is the book that no man wants you to read…practical steps to evolve from a woman that goes Dutch to a woman that gets pampered.”

 As I’ve grown, dating has become less appealing and more strenuous. The humdrum of small talk and “getting to know you” questionnaires leaves little to be desired. I’m not willing to spend my time and energy on a feat that I’m sure will be a waste. I’m a deep person naturally. Let’s talk about race and politics. Let’s discuss science and spirituality. Let’s talk about your plans and goals in life. Yes, on the first date. Why not?

What I’ve learned from dating is that people are either unaware of or afraid to be their authentic selves. Dating has proven time and time again to be a game of who can front the most and keep it up the longest. Yet and still, I find myself scrolling through dating apps and anxiously anticipating an approach every time I leave the house. I may be a little overzealous with the idea of meeting my future partner but how can I not be when I know exactly what I need and want. 

In accordance with the law of attraction, I sought guidance in the form of a book that would teach me how to become that which I wish to attract- a woman that an affluent man would desire. Fortunately, I didn’t have to look too far thanks to my mother who gifted me the perfect read for this occasion: Hotactics: How to mindf**k a man into spending, spoiling, and sponsoring, by GL Lambert. 

Explicit Language Ahead!

“Countless women play by the biased male rules of dating and relationships, one that keeps them in a constant state of stress and worry. Victims of romance instead of masters of love, today’s women settle for cheap dates and cheaper talk.”

This 24-chapter read is segmented into two particular parts: “Secrets of the Smart Ho,” and “The Power of Sex Magic.”

Lambert starts off with a powerful declaration: pussy is power! He expounds on how women will always have the upper hand because they have that which is the driving force of male operation. He breaks down the definition of a “ho” describing her not as a woman who is thirsty for dick, but as a confident woman that doesn’t look for excuses or get discouraged by rejection. She uses her ability to be smart, flirty, and forward to become a valuable asset to a man’s psyche and get what she wants from him. A ho understand the mutuality of relationships, and Lambert teaches how to achieve the benefits of that mutuality with and without having sex.

“Secrets of the Smart Ho” is the part of the book that details how to achieve your ho goals without ever having intercourse. The section starts out with a deep dive into the male mind and explains what it is about women labeled as “hos” that excites men. Lambert says it’s her looks, her charm, her ability to hold a titillating conversation, and most importantly, her attitude.

“A ho’s attitude is the sexiest thing about her because these girls are all about keeping it light and fun.”

He then goes on to talk about “dick discipline” and why it’s important to practice restraint around men that arouse you. Willpower alone can’t save you because it often conflicts with the logic of the mind’s pleasure principle. You must understand why you are wanting something first and then make the conscious and unwavering decision to abstain because you don’t need it.

In this section, he also talks about how to flirt “the ho way,” how to seduce “the ho way,” how to make him fall in love, and how to ask for gifts, money, or favors. Keep in mind this entire section is about how to achieve these goals WITHOUT having intercourse. Using only the essence of your sex appeal, nurturing nature, uncommitted disposition, and lighthearted giddiness to reel him in. My favorite chapter in this section is titled “Treats, tricks or sponsors who to hustle.” I love this chapter because it fully breaks down the kind of “targets” you may meet on the dating scene and how to discern what you will be able to get from them.

• Treats:
  • Are you a woman who just wants to be able to date various guys, get taken to nice places, get gifts even when it’s not your birthday, and never have to come out of pocket when you’re on a date? Then you want to be treated. Being treated is the easiest hustle because you can use it on multiple men once, ranging from those whom you have no romantic interest to those you crush on.

• Tricks:
  • Are you a woman that wants to live an extravagant lifestyle and be spoiled by men with real wealth? Then you need a trick. Tricks are usually well traveled, extremely aggressive, and have heard it all before, so you must be on an advanced level to separate them from their paper. 

• Sponsors:
  • Are you a woman that needs assistance, not gifts? Maybe your tuition covered, your rent paid up for a few months, a car leased in your name, or a business idea funded? If so you’re after a sponsor. These men are usually older and have “I don’t give a fuck” money. Sponsors are more concerned with having fantasy women at their beck and call than having a trophy on their arm in public. Most of these men have girlfriends or wives, so if you’re a jealous type, this isn’t the avenue for you. Unlike treats and tricks, sponsors are usually guys who you won’t be physically attracted to or guys you have to play the side chick role for because they have a family. These flaws are a part of their willingness to support a woman financially. 

The second half of the book discusses how to revitalize hotactics after you’ve already had sex with a target. “The Power of Sex Magic,” teaches the reader how to turn an ex into a target, how to turn someone you’ve previously dated into a sponsor, the ethics of being a proper side chick, how to go from ho to housewife, and the ins and outs of online dating- the ho way. 

Young girls are often taught that being a ho is inherently wrong. That “good girls” prevail and being modest, shy, docile, and silent would bring a “quality” man into our cipher. However, the way Lambert details specific guidelines on how to interact with men provides an alternative perspective. Lambert’s no holds bar writing style gets straight to the point of how to get the provisions you need from men. He not only delves into the tactics used by women but the essential nature of men that causes these tactics to work efficiently! I would suggest this book to any and every woman regardless of their relationship status.